Drawing inspiration from Government Society and Business class by Anthuvan sir
Bhagavat Gita teaches us to do our duty. Lord Krishna advices Arjuna to do his duty without expecting results. Hinduisim attaches a lot of imporatnce to Karma or Duty.
The sloka from Bhagavat Gita
"Karmanye Vadhi Karasthe Maa Phaleshu Kadachana,
Maa Karmaphal Hetur Bhurma, Te Sanghastva Akarmani"
Expecting results creates unwanted bondage and disturbances in mind. Thinking about the fruits of our hard work restricts our actions and we may not always put our best to attain the results. It does not mean you need not do your duty to escape from these bondages. But the foremost thing is to put our best effort possible to do our duties. Results, fruits of our hard work would follow. Leave the rest to God. We should not hold ourselves the reason for the results we attain. We should only concentrate on our duty at our hand.
" Work as if everything depends on you, Pray as if everything depended on God"
Another point to be happy in life is to never expect gratitude from others whether it is your children, siblings, friends or life partner. If you are loving them or doing some favour only in expectation of something in return at a later point of time i.e. expecting gratitude, then it is not love, it is selfishness. Your action turns into a business transaction. Act selfless. Love and care for others expecting nothing in return. Just like the karma, expecting gratitude fills our mind with thoughts about the return we get on our investment. We feel despair when we are not getting gratitude and love in return from others. I know it is foolish to tell to act without expecting anything in return in the 21st century where every action is governed by "There ain't no such thing as a free lunch". This phrase is in use from early periods though in this generation, I feel this is gaining importance along with a similar phrase "Nothing comes for free". Even in relationships this has become an attitude. We do something so that our friend or partner does the same to us. And the opposite also happens. If he/she can do something bad against me, then why cant I do something similar against her/him? So in this scenario, my earlier point gains importance. Do your actions without expecting gratitude. "Love your partner expecting nothing in return". I remember many of my friends moving heads in disagreement about this point and commenting its foolishness to do that. Just like I told before, that is the present generation. It happens because the world we see around presents before us such a bad impression about the people. I am not one to judge that statement. But, as a Catholic, I believe God will reward you at some point in your life or eternal life for all your actions you do without expecting anything in return from the world. As Bible says " Leave the judgement to God" .
To summarise
Do your duty, Leave the rest to God
Never expect gratitude from others